open for options

We all have our ‘highs’ and ‘lows’. It’s part of being human. Wise men said that the only constant thing about life: change. And I believe it’s true. I’ve read about it, seen it happened, and experienced it myself. One minute, we feel like our world’s fumbling down, the next minute we’re happily laughing all and about it.

Give thanks anyway…for the good stuff: the promotion, the fun vacation, the delightful delicacies; and the not so good stuff: the rejection, the heartbreak, the arguments. The not so good stuff may be a bit harder to swallow, but once we make peace with them and move on, the reward is priceless. It’s like stepping to another level of consciousness. Anyway, what is life all about but keeping our souls intact to God over our humanly-fears?

 

We must’ve had at least one ugly experience that’s glued so hard, it’s hard to be removed from our belief system. And it almost feels wrong that to not think the way we think, because we’ve been too attached to it. For instance, all our lives, we think of men as cheaters. Perhaps, we’ve experienced a few in our surroundings with similar characteristics. We get too occupied with that particular idea that it blocks our view that there is actually a larger picture in life.

It’s funny, really…‘cause I just figured an analogy for such concept through an experience of purchasing ‘hair-vitamins’. It all began when I got the chance to test a branded hair product made of Pracaxi, Argan & Maize oil – all of which are exotic oils extracted from many places throughout the world which work magically in transforming dull hair to magnificence. Also, it’s multi-functioned; can be used before (or after) blow-dry and before (or after) washing the hair. It smells so delish I want to give my hair a big wet French kiss :p Anyway, I fell in love with it and hoping to be able to purchase it one day. My hair is quite dry due to regular use of straightening iron and I feel that it’s necessary to have one of those to make my hair healthier and shinier. But the fact that the price is quite expensive hesitated me. Two days ago, however, as I was strolling down the alley of hair products in the supermarket, I saw small jelly-capsules labeled “Hair Vitamin”. It’s quite ‘down-to-earth’ compared to the exclusive oils I had in mind earlier, but I decided to give it a try. So yesterday, after washing my hair, I applied the capsule-contained oil on my hair thoroughly before using straightening iron. To my surprise, it smells great and give the shine and softness to my hair until now. Wow…I was really happy to know that opening up for more options can really boost my spirit.

 

I realize that I am sometimes rigid to options. Sometimes I'd say, "Fine, whatever" when my opinion is actually the other way around, but too lazy to argue. And when this ignorance-drama  I've been pulling seem to get me annoyed, I usually fume! And my friends and family would  react "WTH?"  Well, that's another story. In this case, apparently having an alternative apart from ‘what I had in mind’ can be fun. I’m not saying that we should settle for less than the best, but opening up and be lenient for other stuffs (that we’ve been resenting since we’re overly absorbed with a single item) can make life more exciting, too -  which includes grabbing the option to stay calm and take it easy when our desires aren't met. the way we want them to be. Why not make the best of our journey by taking a little bit of everything along the way?

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These days, TV shows have been showing a lot of traveling and culinary journeys. When we take a glance of the hosts, they seem to be having the time of their lives. Going places, trying unique delicacies, all smiles. Why…who wouldn’t want to be in their shoes?

 

But when a culinary host whose tweets I follow on Twitter commented “It’s not always great, all the things you saw on TV” towards a person who said, “Lucky you, sir. All you gotta do is eat, eat and eat”, I realize that when ‘eating’ or ‘traveling’ has become a task, the joy would never be the same. In fact, I pity them sometimes, because they have to act as engaging as possible with the audience; no matter what. I even suspect that they actually throw-up the rest of the food tasted after the cameraman took a shot of that exciting scene (TV viewers would love to watch). 

Every person we know now is a branding for him/herself. And most of the time, what they show to the world (often through social networks) are their ‘happy’ selves. They don’t share a bit about their money anxieties, underpaid work situations, abusive mothers, and so on. There’s no use of doing so, of course. But all I’m saying is: nothing is ever as it seems.

Everyone has their own issues. Don’t judge them because they’re drop dead gorgeous. Don’t judge them because they’re cold and bitter. Don’t judge them because they’re heavy-weight travelers. Don’t judge them because they’re ‘not like us’. Simply drop all judgments, whether they’re “good” or “bad”, for each one has their own untold stories. 

feeling good in our own skin

The world today, where the image of 'beauty' is represented by thin, fair, long-straight-haired girls wandering in magazines and magazines, has all it takes to trigger even little girls by the age of 5 or 6 to say "I'm fat!" *sigh. The littlest girls have been bombarded by the idea of looking pretty is to have a 'Barbie' figure. Often, many of them eventually take it to the extremes and ended up having eating disorders. 

Some girls in China and Korea have even made it a trend to have surgery to make their legs longer, as they are of models (whose picture of legs are brought along during consultations with the surgeon, saying "These are the legs I want to have"). Sure, the surgery only takes about a couple hours or so, but the recovery can take like, 5-6 months. It also includes physiotherapy (a special therapy to actually "learn" how to walk again, due to the now extensioned legs).  

 
It's understandable to have a desire to be beautiful. Don't we all want to be praised and own the feeling of acceptance in our community? It is very normal. I used to be that girl. Why...I can even say that I still am sometimes. Looking at the mirror, focused on body parts that I feel too fat or 'unlike that girl on TV'. Us, girls, can be the meanest self-critics when it comes to our body.

However, after I had a surgery 6 months ago, I realized that things could've been worse. My legs may be double-extra-large compared to Gisele Bunchen's, but they still take me to places; unlike some people who are born 'disable'. My cheeks may be chubby compared to Victoria Beckham with her edgy cheek bones, but I can still chew my food; unlike some people who have no choice but to be fed with liquid food down  their digestive system. My hair may be wavy and (often) challenging to manage, but it's still there, unlike some cancer patients who have lost their precious manes due to chemo.

And even if I do have weight issues, maybe I should review my daily intake. Perhaps I eat too much fried, salty and sugary food, perhaps I feel that food has become a blanket of comfort whenever I'm stressed out, perhaps I have grown the habit of rummaging the fridge when I feel bored. Deep down, I believe that the body has the intelligence to adjust itself, creating a balanced proportion when I begin to realize that it's not hunger, but emotions, that got me chewing those food (for comfort) at the first place. Hence, before taking a piece (or two) of a scrumptious-looking food, I may need to ask myself, "Do I really need this food or it's just my craving for something to get my mind off my issues?"

Day 3 Singapore Trip April 6-9, 2012

The next day after the so-called ‘Outdoor Day’, we woke up at 10 am! It was our last day in Singapore, and also shopping day since we’re going to Orchard Road. We had breakfast in the kitchen with other backpackers: cereal, toast with peanut butter and jam, plus orange and apple juice. Slightly different to my previous experience at HangOut, at Wink we had to do things by ourselves, including washing the dishes after use. However, it was still great fun. Wouldn’t miss it for the world!

My first destination was Uniqlo, since Novi has been telling me to buy one of the jeggings. I got a navy blue one, while I got my sister a khaki one. It was nice, indeed. Then, Ayu went to Sephora, a make up store with loads of great variety of cosmetic kit and lotions. It was heaven for anyone who loves make-up. Urban Decay, benefit, Sephora, Uncle Bee’s, Bobbi Brown, Laura Mercier, whatever brands that are not available in Indonesia, you can find it here.

Since Ayu got a brunch-meeting with her Singaporean friends, I went around Orchard with Dora. We had lunch first at a food court in a mall, I had Chicken Rice. First, H&M, then Hang Ten at Lucky Plaza. Speaking of Lucky Plaza, the place was crowded by housekeepers from Indonesia and the Philipines. I went there to buy 5 polo shirts for my brothers in assorted colors. I like to buy stuff for other people, I guess that’s my soft spot :p

Anyway, afterwards, Dora and I reunited with Ayu. Dora had to leave early, so we bid ourselves a farewell. Next, we headed to Marina Bay Sands to watch Wicked. Beforehand, we had an early dinner at a food court. I had Chicken Guey Tiaw while Ayu had oyster omelette. De-li-ci-ous! I had no expectation whatsoever at first upon watching the Broadway show, but it turned out to be oh-so-spectacular! A marvelous ending for our Singapore trip.

We packed our luggages the night before we leave Singapore. Then, off we went to Changi at 5 am. The airport is magnificent. Lots of chocolate shops as well as duty free shops that sells perfumes which cost less than in Jakarta. No wonder everyone praises this particular airport. While waiting for Ayu returning from the washroom, I turned on the Osim reflexology massage machine and the aching feet started to feel better. Our Jet Star flight departed from Singapore at 8.20. So long Singapore…see you in another time!  

  

Day 2 Singapore Trip April 6-9, 2012

Our second day was intended for outdoor activities. First, we went to Singapore Botanic Garden and National Orchid Garden. We tried to take the bus, following instruction from www.gothere.sg, but apparently the driver did not stop in every single bus stop. The next thing we know, we got lost. Finally, we took a cab. It is unquestionably a beautiful place; looks a lot like Kebun Raya Bogor, but much cleaner and much better maintained. Many people brought along their dogs for a walk. It was a beauty, indeed. People sitting on the green grass while their dog fetch frisbees. It's a sight that as if appears from a movie fragment; nothing like I’ve seen in Jakarta. Colorful orchids, red, green, yellow, you name it. Pure gorgeousness.

Afterwards, we went to IKEA at Alexandra Road. We had lunch first. I ordered Swedish meatballs, while the girls had Salmon Gravad, and two plates of chicken wings to be shared. IKEA was nice, but to my least expectation, it doesn’t make much difference with Informa back home. Ayu bought a white wrinkled blanket, while I came out empty-handed; except for IKEA’s famous yummy vanilla ice-cream that costs only 50 cents.

The following destination was Universal Studios. Vivo City first, then the train to Sentosa Island. It was cramped with people of all sizes and colors. However, USS was such a humongous place that everyone still had more than enough space to walk around. First photo spot: what else, than the Universal Studios gigantic globe. Second was the Monster Rock theatrical performance. Frankenstein, Vampire, Mummy, and friends entertained the audience with their singing and dancing.

Then, we headed to the Madagascar site, where penguins, Alex the lion, Gloria the hippo and King Julien the ring-tailed lemur  danced to “You’ve Got to Move it, Move it…” Afterwards, we lined up for picture taking with each of the characters.

Next, we had a go on the Far Far Away castle, where we caught a sneeze out of Donkey in his 4D movie with everyone’s favorite ogre friend, Shrek, on their mission to rescue Fiona—who’s captured by the ghost of Frederick. It was heaps of fun, sitting on that simulator seat, getting wet and chills down our spines with hi-tech special effects.

Transformers 4D ride, The Mummy, Water World and Jurassic Park came following after, with loads of picture-taking along the way. I went on the The Mummy Ride by myself, ‘cause Ayu and Dora didn’t want to ride on rollercoasters. It was so much fun! It was dark and I was so mummyfied I wanted to do it all over again…too bad we didn't have much of time. When I walked out from the ride, it was raining cats and dogs…and my friends were nowhere to be found...plus, the rollercoaster ride didn’t allow us to bring a bag/purse to avoid any loss during the ride—so, of course, I asked Ayu & Dora to keep my bag secured with them. Imagine, no phone, penniless, passport-less. So, I told the USS person…described Ayu & Dora’s appearance, and he told me “The security camera caught them in the Mummy’s souvenir shop (the ride’s exit is through the souvenir shop). If you can’t find them, come here again.” And my oh my, was I relieved to see Dora! She was right across the souvenir shop, asking to the photo-ticket lady if I was ever seen there. We hugged each other like we haven’t seen each other for 5 years!

Since it was still drizzling, we bought ourselves a plastic raincoat that costs SGD 3. Based on the flyer we’ve got, the next show would be the Water World. We had to wait for 45 minutes, but it was worth it! The show was spectacular, with gunshots and explosion effects that seems so real, as if we’re watching a live action movie. The seating rows were divided in two sections for audiences’ convenience: green (where people can feel the water splashing) and orange (people who don’t want to get wet, well, stay dry). Preliminary to the show, the actors literally threw buckets of water to the audience in the green section and asked us to make some noise for warming up. They performed wholeheartedly and it’s hard to notice that it’s all an act. Two thumbs up!

We went to Jurassic Park afterwards. It's like rafting, but situated as if we’re in the Jurassic Park,where dinosaurs had the system broken and everything were in alarm-mode. The journey ended with the sight of an opened T-Rex mouth on top of our heads, ready to make us his feast. But finally, a gate opened in front and we’re finally released.

To wrap up our rides experience, we went to the Transformers ride for the second time. This time, there was no line and it was much more fun with water splash and warm temperature with red smoke when the screen showed a fragment where there was a fire explosion.

I did a little shopping for USS T-shirt for my nephews and was very intigued by the sight of so many cute stuffs. Apparently, they were having a promotion, 2 t-shirts for a free children’s skirt. Ah, a treat for Syifa, another niece of mine :)

We were starving...and out of the blue, Ayu decided to give us a treat at Hard Rock Café; great food and a live stage performance too! A 10 year old Singaporean Ryan performed on stage, killing us with “Sweet Child of Mine”. Thanks, Yu...a super rockin’ night indeed to end the fun day!

Day 1 Singapore Trip April 6-9, 2012

I just got back from a trip to Singapore with my bestie since junior high, Ayu. There, we were accompanied by Dora, Ayu’s friend who lives in Singapore. We didn’t get promo flight tickets ‘cause we just booked a week earlier. Long story short, we managed to get tickets in a quite affordable price (for a long weekend, so to speak), back and forth.

We departed from Soetta at 9.20 am, and arrived at 12.10 am (Singapore time). Next, we headed straight to Wink Hostel in Chinatown. It was a small-spaced hostel –HangOut was a lot better— but it was clean and quite nice. The shower room was similar to the ones we usually use in swimming pools and the toilets are always clean. After putting our luggages in our bunkbed-lockers, we went to Funan Digital Mall in seach of Ayu’s laptop. We got the chance to try on an egg tart in a small cake shop called Tong Heng, as recommended by a travel website in Chinatown. I also tried the curry chicken pie. Yummo!

This dude really shocked me! He was fooling around by taking part in our picture :p

Funan Digital Mall resembles a lot to our Ratu Plaza. After checking out some stores, Ayu finally got herself two laptop series to opt from. Starving, we had a late lunch at KFC. Their fried chicken’s ok, but the cheese fries was awesome! It’s fries with loads of melted cheese on top and daun bawang on top. Love at first bite. It didn’t even bother me to complain, knowing their chili sauce tastes like sweet n sour-Bangkok-sauce.

After meeting Dora, Ayu settled the payment and we went back to the hostel to drop the laptop. We strolled along Chinatown and took loads of pictures around the peranakan-cultured buildings with colorful windows. Amongst the crowded lane, we paid a visit to Tintin Shop. It was a-ma-zing! Reminded a lot of sweet savory childhood. Oh, and we also went to a fortune teller. He told me that I should stop eating, at least an hour before going to bed, to avoid any problem in my intenstine. “You have good luck and fortune. And smart…very smart,” he said. I asked about love life, then he said, “You’re blocking love from coming to your life. Give it a try, interview those men and find which one suits best. You should get marry to a man whose birth between 6-12 (June to December), otherwise if you marry one who was born between 1-5 (January to May), he’ll boss you around. I’ll give you beauty and no man can resist you.” Then, without me asking, he told me that I should stick to a career: “teaching”. “You complain sometimes about work…you should choose a teaching job that enables you to travel, because you’re a traveler. You will go to Sulawesi, and many places…then you will be happy. Or you can open your own business in printing, photocopy, invitation, name cards…you will be rich.” Whoa, didn’t see that coming. Hahahah…   

After that, all three of us went to Bugis street. I just found out that the shopping place is a 3-storeyed building. 1^st floor was packed like crazy. Dora had to go early, so we parted at Bugis after no luck in finding a spot for dinner. Ayu and I went to the 2^nd and 3^rd floor. I got a cute blue cropped top and a blue striped-ribbon ring for Ayu. I also bought Prisal (my niece) the cropped top she’s been wanting to have. Before we went back to Wink, we served ourselves a decent dinner a full set of Kaya Toast at Toast Box, Bugis Junction – yes, toast…for dinner – which included toast with sarikaya jam & butter (oh Lord, it tasted heavenly…), half-boiled egg, and a cup of hot Teh Tarik (milk-tea). The signature Singaporean dish wrapped up our first day in Singapore.

money or experience?

When faced with a decision: money or experience, I would choose experience. Even though money is undoubtedly essential, I believe that experience is priceless; it can take me to places, connect with many people and broaden my knowledge. For me personally, it is much more rewarding than an amount of money that will eventually be spent for daily goods.

My deceased aunt (God bless her soul) was very strict with money; and she left this world without enjoying her fortune. She chose not to ever go abroad, underwent a diet (that made her reluctant to dine out-of-home) and created a set of boundaries that limited her own space (and the people around her). I never knew whether she's happy or not with her life; but gazing from her way of life, I choose not to follow her footsteps.

I am grateful that I can ladle as much experiences I can while still young and single *forget my whining the other day about being singled-out when most of friends are already married* :p At this point, I am grateful for my freedom (which is prolly envied by women my age who are already busy with their husbands and children that they don't have the luxury of experiencing "me time"). Point is, looking out won't serve any of us a peace of mind.

Speaking about experience, I have come to the realization that what matters in my life has nothing to do with fancy looks, getaways or multiple zeroes in my bank account. They are merely packagings. My past experiences have taught me a better understanding of myself. To name a few are braving myself to show up; trusting that everything is possible; and be content with myself, no matter what. I bet everyone has their own issues to overcome, and as years go by s/he will learn from experience. 

In the long run, I don't want to be recalled as the bitter aunt with numerous savings, but the happy-go-lucky one with a suitcase full of experiences 

why your choices are so powerful - Robin Lee

Courtesy of ROBIN LEE on FEBRUARY 4, 2012

It’s incredible how many choices we have to make in a given hour, day or year.  We hear that with each choice is a step.  A step to take us to where we will go tomorrow.  No wonder people worry so much about making the “right” choices and decisions.  Who wants to take the wrong step?

Choices are exciting.  Choices give the opportunity for life to become more alive and new.  Choices are given to us to build confidence.  Choices are gifts to give us the opportunity to take yet another step toward creating more of what we want of in our lives.  Making choices isn’t about making the choice that is “right”.  Right would show that one choice is to be awarded and things will flow nicely — and another choice will create judgment, suffering or difficulty.  No wonder so many of us want to make the right choice!  Talk about pressure!  Who wants to suffer?  All we want is our lives to be easy, loving and flowing.

I have a big secret to share with you.  There are only right decisions.  Instead of worrying about what is right or wrong, imagine simply closing your eyes and asking yourself which decision makes you feel more expansive and alive inside.  Take a big deep slow breath.  Really imagine.  Have courage to trust and listen.  What decision makes you feel more expansive inside?  This is the simplest path to learning to connect to your heart.  Have courage to feel expansive and free.

I find this very eye opening that I want to share it with all of you. You can read the full article here

energy

When I was in elementary school, I learned that the source of energy on earth is the sun. Without solar energy, there would be no plants, and no plants means no life. Later, I discovered that everything in life contains energy; water, fire, animals, even us human beings.

Here, I'm talking about a different kind of 'energy'. Apparently, each person, each place radiate a certain kind of energy. A friend of mine shared her idea that people with negative emotions carry a thick, dense energy; while people with positive emotions carry a light and carefree energy. Thick energy can make others feel heavy and tired easily. Ironically, they are the ones who are flocked with followers. Gossipers, for instance. Being lighthearted won't win a popularity contest, for sure. A person with certain energy will attract similar ones. There's a saying: "If you want to know what a person is like, just take a look at the personality f his or her friends." The concept does make sense, because we tend to find like-minded friends with similar visions, right?

'New-agely' speaking, the universe responds to the vibration of the energy  we let go, whether it's negative or positive. What you seek is what you will get. For instance, a woman is eager to find life partner. But her past experiences reasoned that men are jerks, cheaters. As much as she's willing to, if she doesn't remove her false belief that men are like what she has in mind, she will keep on getting what she "is looking for".

The world is full of energy. Even money is energy. Don't idolize it, don't demonize it. Own it. If we believe that we are filled with abundance flowing energy, we will always feel enough, and money (or soulmate and new opportunities)  will come to us in the most peculiar ways. The things we desire will come to us, simply when we are ready and deservant enough to accept it ♥

end of 30-days-blogging-challenge

Whoa...it's such a relief to know that I've completed the 30-Days-Challenge of blogging. It was a challenge I created for myself to commit in writing (even a single sentence) to be posted in this blog. To be frank, I didn't think that daily writing could be as challenging, because as much as I love the activity, there were times when I had to face writer's block a.k.a clueless of what to write. My friend has done it before (http://tianyud.blogspot.com), but her OCD characteristic (hehehehe...peace, Sep :p) gave the idea of making topics-plan in advance for her 30 days challenge. I didn't, that's why it's sort of like a rant on some of the days. Being a freelancer, I do have more time to think about what to write; so I guess it's fair enough.

It was fun knowing that I have something to look forward to, readers to attend to, writing things that often only got across of my head but never really write about. I even thought of prolonging it for another 30 days, but I'm content enough with my present achievement; especially since I only post like 5 writing pieces in a year (which revolves around new year, the first few days of the new year, sometime around my birthday, the mid-year, and end of year). So, I'm gonna take it easy this time *hand patting my back*.

Much blessings and kissus to you, you and you..hooo...

day 30 2012

This morning, I read a friend's status on facebook: "Whenever I eat es campur, I'm always reminded of my Dad..."

It struck me that almost about everything around us are associated with a particular feeling or thought. For example: the smell of fart. We won't label it icky if none of us associates it with the fact it's an odor that comes preliminary to the release of feces.

Certain smells, sounds, views, taste, or sensation of touch can evoke memories (may it be good or bad). 

For me, the smell of freshly brewed coffee gives a tingling warm feeling inside. It reminds me of the old times when my family gathers around the dining table, sharing stories and laughters. 

On the other hand, hearing loud unharmonious sound of guitar or piano can trigger the fear in me. Back in my childhood, my ex-druggie brother used to play the guitar or piano in the oddest tunes each time he feels upset. Next, he would yell at anyone near him. My folks, the helper, me. 

It wasn't a happy story to remember. However, he's sober now; a totally different person. Only that sometimes past memories makes occasional visits. It's part of my life that I'll need to make peace with. 

Surely everyone has their own emotional baggage, and it can't be erased over a couple sessions of therapy or whatsoever. But I believe that time heals. And through the roughest moments one can learn to forgive and be open-hearted. 

It might take years to put down the walls, but it's gonna be worth it. What better gift to have than a peaceful mind and forgiving heart? ♥

day 29 2012

There's always a solution for everything, even fashion hesitation for curvy girls like moi. I'm taking a fashion advice from a fellow blogger, Franceta Johnson: the key is to collect basic items with good quality and cutting, such as blazer, shirt and a pair of comfy jeans. Add fun stuffs like bandana, neon-colored bags or unique accessories. Patterns will also help “minimize” the silhouette, and if you're not confident with mini-skirt, you can always pair it with black stockings. 

"I'm a six-foot-five plus-size girl, but I still wear miniskirts and heels without hesitation. Size shouldn't prevent you from taking risks." ~Franceta Johnson, Canada

 

 

day 28 2012

I'm a worshiper of practicality, and it includes applying on make-up. Once I read a beauty product campaign that says: "Life is complicated enough, make up shouldn't be." The message lingers. Awesome slogan, indeed.

If you're like me (can't be bothered with weighty make-up kit), I'm going to share some tips and tricks that might just work for you too:

1.For the base, you can try Maybelline's Blemish Balm (BB cream - Rp39,000). It can minimize your budget for powder purchase because it's a foundation-powder combo

2.Unlike other girls who can have a few similar shades of lipsticks, I can survive with the basics: brownish pink (for work), nude (for daily errands), and red (for special occasions) - trust me, red lipstick is a lifetime investment; it'll make you feel confident, sexy and glam instantly. Also note that not only does applying lipstick with brush more economical, but it also makes the color more long lasting

3.Sheer-colored lip gloss is a must-have. Go for Maybelline or L'oreal's

4.For cheeks, I have a pink blush-on that can go all the way, from morning to evening. Sometimes, if I feel like matching my cheeks with lipstick tone, I just apply some lipstick on my cheeks. Bodyshop has lip-and-cheek color series (Rp 169,000), but I'm good enough with my lipstick :D

5.Basic tones of eyeshadow (brown and gold) are always compatible in all kinds of occasion, but don't ever hesitate to go darker (black, dark blue, gray, silver) for a Kardashian look or brighter (sky blue, green, violet) for a young and playful look

6.Eyeliner plays a big role in giving character to the eyes. A simple cat-eyes plus striking red lipstick can put you under the spotlight. There are several options of eyeliners that you can choose: pencil, liquid or pot (applied with thin brush). So far, I think the eyeliner on the pot is still the winner. It's easy to use and quite long lasting. Bobbi Brown launched one, but it costs a fortune (Rp350,000), but I noticed that Maybelline also sells it at a more reasonable price (Rp79,000). Colored eyeliners seemed fun, but actually you can create a similar effect by dampening your thin brush and dip it onto a colored eyeshadow. Voila, colored eyeliner is ready to be applied


7.Mascara is an important one. Try to find one with a brush that looks like a comb. That way, the effect will be more natural, and the mascara won't lump on your lashes

8.Eyebrow liner is also an essential item. Don't use black eyebrow pencil because it'll make your face look harsh. Go for brown Viva eyebrow pencil (approx. Rp20,000), then complete with brushing your eyebrows in upward movement with old and dry mascara

9.For cleansing the eyeshadow,mascara and lipstick, you can either use make-up remover or baby oil on a cotton ball. Make sure your face is clean before you hit the bed

10.Exfoliate the skin by scrubbing it once every two weeks for dead-cell regeneration. Avoid touching the face with dirty hands, and don't pick on your pimples or black heads. If necessary, go to a dermatologist for skin problems that cannot be resolved with OTC (over the counter) products. Anyway, all the make-up won't do any good if your skin is dull and unhealthy, right?

Hope they can be useful :D

day 27 2012

Today is counted as the beginning of the last weekend of the month. In the spirit of D.I.Y, I want to share a simple recipe to make Hot & Spicy Party Mix Nuts. Peanuts are great source of protein and a good friend to the heart.

Here's how to make your own home-made Party Mix Nuts:

1. Melt 2 table-spoons of butter on a non-stick frying pan 
2. Then, put 1 kg of your favorite nuts (cashew, almond, pistachio, etc.) and stir until the nuts are evenly coated with melted butter
3. Add 1 tea-spoon of salt, 1 tea-spoon of sugar, 1 tea-spoon of paprika powder, 1 teaspoon of chili powder, 1/4 tea-spoon of turmeric powder and 1/4 tea-spoon of pepper
4. Keep stirring at medium heat until the nuts are cooked 
5. Cool them off and store in an air-tight container

Don't forget to go for a walk after snacking this treat because the calories contained in a handful of nuts = 20 minutes of walking.

day 26 2012

Here's a great reminder to be thankful at any given time :)

Credit goes to Karen Salmansohn via http://www.notsalmon.com

day 25 2012

Life is too pretty to be filled with frowning face and bitterness. Here are 30 ways to cheer up again:

1. Smile :)

2. Return to childhood. Play ball, sing your heart out as if you're in a "Sound of Music scene", touch "putri malu" leaf

3. Make use of aromatherapy oil (orange can boost happiness)

4. Read old diaries

5. Give food to the needy (street kids, homeless, even ojek drivers)

6. Place a mat on the back yard, have yourself a little picnic 
7. Turn on your fave upbeat music and dance

8. Make a truce with a friend after an argument

9. Enjoy being still and alone. If you can't feel comfortable with the person you're with now, chances are you'll never be able to enjoy being with the person you will be in the future

10.Watch a free ballet, music, or other art performances (at TIM, Erasmus Huis, or Teater Salihara)

11.Stop smoking

12.Think positively. Try to look at things from the bright side

13.Make a daily gratitude note. 3 things I'm grateful for today are ...., ...., and ....

14.Make a list on everything that makes you happy. Read it again, and notice how beautiful life is

15.Follow your gut-feeling. If you just can't seem to take your eyes off of that umbrella on the corner of the room, then maybe your intuition is telling you to bring it along - it might be raining later on

16.Make a red velvet cake. It's easy, really..

17.Say what you mean to say. Try not to candy-coat or resist any expression of feeling (this time), then drop it. Saying sorry in expressing yourself is like saying sorry for being real

18.Organize a party at your place. Dresscode: fake tatoos and/or face painting. Serve rujak and all sorts of colorful dish. Snap unique pics

19.Plant something, even as simple as a bean sprout on a wet cotton ball

20.Go window shopping to pick up the latest trend

21.Give "Thanks" and appreciate the people around you. Don't take anyone for granted. You'll never know where you'll be the next day

22.Take a cold shower

23.Make a vision board, consisting pics of all ur dreams

24.Meditate. Be still and feel your breathing as a unison part of the universe

25.Watch a cartoon instead of the devastating news

26.Play with bubbles. Mix liquid soap with water, make a bubble blower using straw, and make bubbles

27.Melt chocolate (heat water, put a bowl on the heated water with chocolate and a bit of butter), dip in sliced fruits, marshmellow, and biscuits. Yum-o!

28.Be a Powerpuff Girl. Make attempts to help everyone in your mission to rescue the world. Help the maid wash the dishes, assist your mom with her grocery shopping, etc.

29.Move a lot. A healthy body is one of the keys to happiness

30.Learn to love yourself as you are. You're enough.

day 24 2012

I'm currently in my pre-menstrual cycle. The menstruation cycle occurs every 21-30 days for 3-7 days. In case you don't know, it's a biological process in the female reproduction organ that technically releases ovum (eggs) all the way from the ovarian (eggs storage) to its exit, the vagina. The releasing process sometimes involve muscle contractions which cause cramps and aching on the back and/or waist. When feeling tensed or stressed out, the aching can even be more intense.

It is common for women in general to have bigger appetite as preliminary symptom because our metabolism increase three times than usual. Sometimes, we may feel a bit drowsy and weak. We also feel hotter because our body temperatures increase during this cycle. Not to mention, the periodical mood swings that make women 10 times more sensitive.

Despite of all the discomfort, however, menstruation is a blessing. The fact that we can have period means that we can have the chance to get pregnant and have babies. From our wombs, we can give birth to a future Steve Jobs or Michael Jackson.

As Katherine Trevelyan put it into words, "At a birth, the heavens lean down, or perhaps it is that the racked body is spun fine to be aware of the eternal things - we women hardly know how lucky we are in this."

So, I'm going to take it easy in embracing my menstrual cycle. From my experience, long walks or sport activities conducted two or three weeks in advance help me to reduce the body-upsets. Using "koyo" can also be helpful in handling cold sweats and vomiting-urges. Take deep breaths. Listen to soothing music. Do yoga. You too can find the best method that works.

Let's embrace our womanhood with a little <3

day 23 2012

Hey, it's the Chinese New Year. Today, I'm going to share the its and bits about this festivity. Let's explore a slice of the Chinese culture's richness.

First of all, why are Chinese so crazy about red and gold? Related to the colors associated with the 5 elements (water, wood, fire, metal, and earth), red is most frequently used because it symbolizes good fortune, prosperity, and happiness; while gold is a symbol of happiness and wisdom.

In line with the new year, every building is believed to also be influenced by a different energy or chi compared to the previous year. The year 2012 (February 4, 2012 - February 3, 2013) is a great year to harvest outcomes because it is a Dragon year with Positive Water element.

According to myths, dragon is a creature that carries strength of the god of wealth, respect, wisdom, and long-life. However, it is recommended that you avoid renovations as well as dig soil. Furthermore, avoid establishing a house or building that faces south throughout the year.

For interior decoration, place a decoration in the form of a frog facing the main doorway or office because frog is a symbol of good fortune and wealth.
In addition, putting on wind chimes can never go wrong. Many centuries ago, wind chimes are designed for ceremony rituals. For the Chinese, wind chimes can diffuse negative energy that enter the house. It is also believed to have the ability to capture positive chi and distribute it equally around the house. To function well, wind chimes cannot be placed too low. Instead, place it in an ideal height so that it won't disturb the traffic or chi energy.

Gong Xi Fa Cai...may prosperity and good fortune be with us :)

day 22 2012

Every woman must have a certain obsession or fanatiscm in something. Just like men who enjoy fast-speed cars and soccer matches, us, women have our own fetishes (in an even broader option-spectrum). Some women are crazy about bags, others about shoes, body lotions, perfumes, charms, accessories, or even undies. Even Carrie Bradshaw on Sex and the City, with her shoe-buffness, also confirmed a similar addiction, "A girl can never have enough shoes in her closet."

But if we want to be honest, even though we claim to have loads of "favorite objects" in our wardrobe, we tend to wear the same outfits over and over again. That's probably the reason why we can't seem to have enough of them. If we would peek into our wardrobes now, we'll discover items that we wear only once or twice in a year because we're too comfortable wearing the "usual" ones. 

This repetitive dressing-up can be caused by the fact that the clothes we just worn are washed and ironed, folded, and then piled up again at the top of the wardrobe or hung at the front; making us too reluctant doing mix 'n match like ones suggested by magazines we read. If this is what's happening, maybe we can re-organize to put the fresh clothes (worn a couple of days ago) on the bottom layer of the pile or the back of the hanger so we can see more options (we never knew we had).  

It can be tricky, though, to experiment with clothes. We can easily fall for wearing the more

 familiar top and bottom because it's easier that way. Sometimes, we can't afford the risk of being noticed by colleagues for wearing something out of the ordinary. However, often, it's worth the time and effort. Putting up a "new" style from clothes stuck in our wardrobe for years can boost our mood and spark an a-ha moment: "Hey, I can actually work my way from what I already have!"

To decrease the hassle of morning-frustration, we can do the head-to-toe selection the night earlier...and most importantly, commit to wear the selected items in the morning without a change of mind. Wearing different clothes (complimented with different shoes, accessories & bags) can make us feel brand new every day (as well as save money). With a dash of creativity and confidence to wing it, I believe that this can be pretty exciting.   

Dare to take the challenge? 

day 20 2012

It's 3 more days before the Chinese New Year. I was reading an article related to this celebration when my eyes caught a Feng Shui tip to get over a heartbreak and increase love energy in life.

The following is a recipe to "peel" love matters and invite new love by Ellen Whitehurst, world-known Feng Shui master and author of best-selling book, "Make This Your Lucky Day":
» Prepare orange skin from 9 oranges and 2 cups of bath salt
» Mix the orange skin and bath salt to warm water inside a bathtub
» Dive in the bathtub for 20-30 minutes, and set your mind to relax. The orange skin fragrance will make you feel refreshed and rejuvenated
» Rinse your body and put on some make up. A brand new love awaits <3

day 20 2012

It's 3 more days before the Chinese New Year. I was reading an article related to this celebration when my eyes caught a Feng Shui tip to get over a heartbreak and increase love energy in life.

The following is a recipe to "peel" love matters and invite new love by Ellen Whitehurst, world-known Feng Shui master and author of best-selling book, "Make This Your Lucky Day":
» Prepare orange skin from 9 oranges and 2 cups of bath salt
» Mix the orange skin and bath salt to warm water inside a bathtub
» Dive in the bathtub for 20-30 minutes, and set your mind to relax. The orange skin fragrance will make you feel refreshed and rejuvenated
» Rinse your body and put on some make up. A brand new love awaits <3

day 19 2012

Looking at my old and present pictures, I notice there's a similarity between most of them. And that is: the length of my hair. It has been dyed, permed, straightened, braided, razored, but the length is always above my shoulders.

Fyi, I used to have long hair throughout my elementary school years. It's quite high maintenance that there were times when I needed assistance to have it washed (you can imagine how long it was). I was so tired of having long hair that I decided to keep it in moderate length (medium at longest) until today. 

I like short-medium hair because it's comfortable, simple and practical. With long hair, I became easily annoyed for its time-consuming washing time, the blow-drys, the straightening-irons. Not to mention the temptation to tie it up as pony tail to minimize the hassle. Of course, there's always an option to go to the salon, but even that agenda requires a long period of time. 

I love looking at girls with long hair, especially those wavy J-Lo-resembling ones, and I do have intentions to grow it a bit longer, to see how it flatters my round face. But I'm not making any promises, though :p 

day 17 2012

Today, I'm gonna share three of my favorite quotes. Actually, all three of them shout the same message, which is the courage to be different & proud of it.

"Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. While some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do."
~Apple Inc

"Patience child, patience. Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once there'd be no point to living. Enjoy the ride, and in the end you'll see these "setbacks" as giant leaps forward, only you couldn't see the bigger picture in the moment. Remain calm, all is within reach; all you have to do is show up every day, stay true to your path and you will surely find the treasure you seek."
~Jackson Kiddard

If you focus on what you don't have, you will never feel enough in anything.
~Oprah Winfrey

day 16 2012

After the brief given last Friday (and over with the preliminary anxiety, as explained the day before). Although it did take some warming up, I was able to complete two documents as requested by the person who hired my service. Phew...I was relieved indeed.

It's true what people say: "We would never know what we're capable of doing until we've been challenged." But sometimes, we tend to downgrade our capabilities that we believe we can't do it. Challenges that come along the way serve as reminders that we are better than we think.

Let's give a pat on our back and say "Good work..." We sometimes push ourselves too hard that we forget to give a sincere appreciation to the person we see in the mirror. We deserve it :)

 

 

day 15 2012

There's always something about "the first time" that gives mixed feelings. Whether it's a new job or traveling to a unfamiliar place, the emerging disbelief-excitement-jitters-anxiety-hope prior to a certain experience is inevitable.

 
After a couple of weeks hibernating, it's time to stretch my muscles and get back on track. It's common for me to get chills before I actually do it. But I've learned over time that ideas will flow smoothly once my mind is at ease. So, before I get on that treadmill, first thing I'm going to do is meditate, breathe and still my mind << this helps big time to avoid cravings and series of escapism :p Easy does it, baby...

Speaking of "first times", here's a link I found on the web on stories about first time experiences in many aspects of life. In my opinion, it's very interesting and eye opening. Feel free to peek here.

 

day 14 2012

Being a freelancer in a world where "normal" is a term that describes work as going to the office early in the morning, occupied from 9 to 5 under an institution and go home late at night is not easy. But it is the path I've chosen. I've worked in several offices and schools, but I love freelancing the best.

Here are the 10 things I'm grateful of for being a freelancer:

1. Freelancing gives me the room to explore various things I couldn't do if I work under an institution. I can teach, write and perform my skill in many ways
2. It allows me to skip the wearyness of dragging my feet to go the office or get stuck in rush hours (which happens mostly every hour these days)
3. I can plot my own working hours and establish my "office" wherever I please
4. The luxury of waking up a little bit late on that cold breezy rainy morning (need I say more?
:D)
5. I have more time to do the things I love doing (journaling, blogging, mall-ratting, etc.)
6. Though freelancing, it doesn't mean that I'm broke. Freelancers usually have regular projects that maintains the bread supply on the table (and sometimes, the wine on the cellar ;))
7. I don't have to shop for office clothes or worry about what to wear in the morning
8. I have the privilege to replace client-meetings with insightful and productive brainstorms
9. My weight is under control because I don't search for comfort food anymore when feeling stressful from work
10. I'm living my dream :)

 There's only one word I can say, and it's "Alhamdulillah..."

day 13 2012

It's Friday the 13th. Why is the combination of Friday and 13 associated with bad luck? Where did all the spooky stories come from? I decided a to make a little research on this. And here are my findings:

* In numerology, the number twelve is considered the number of completeness, as reflected in the twelve months of the year, twelve hours of the clock, twelve gods of Olympus, twelve tribes of Israel, twelve Apostles of Jesus, the 12 Descendants of Muhammad Imams, etc., whereas the number thirteen was considered irregular, transgressing this completeness. There is also a superstition, thought by some to derive from the Last Supper or a Norse myth, that having thirteen people seated at a table will result in the death of one of the diners
* Friday has been considered an unlucky day at least since the 14th century's The Canterbury Tales, and many other professions have regarded Friday as an unlucky day to undertake journeys or begin new projects. Black Friday has been associated with stock market crashes and other disasters since the 1800s. It has also been suggested that Friday has been considered an unlucky day because, according to Christian scripture and tradition, Jesus was crucified on a Friday
* One author, noting that references are all but nonexistent before 1907 but frequently seen thereafter, has argued that its popularity derives from the publication that year of Thomas W. Lawson's popular novel Friday, the Thirteenth, in which an unscrupulous broker takes advantage of the superstition to create a Wall Street panic on a Friday the 13th. Records of the superstition are rarely found before the 20th century, when it became extremely common
* The connection between the Friday the 13th superstition and the Knights Templar was popularized in the 2003 novel The Da Vinci Code. However, experts agree that this is a relatively recent correlation, and most likely a modern-day invention. Although according to many Freemasons, this date corresponds with the slaughtering of the Knights Templar by the Church

They even have a term to describe people who seriously fear this particular day, which is : friggatriskaidekaphobia (Frigga being the name of the Norse goddess for whom "Friday" is named and triskaidekaphobia meaning fear of the number thirteen)

Ah, now we know :D